What kind of Sex are you having?

Just because sex happens within the confines of marriage doesn't mean it's healthy.

The following list starts with a description of the most healthy sexual relationship and works it's way down to the most unhealthy. It is taken from Doug Weiss' book, "Secret Solutions:
Over 100 Ways to End the Secret." Thank you to the person who passed this on to me!

Relational Sex: Both partners enjoy each other as a person and are able to communicate sexual needs to one another. One or both partners may or may not have an orgasm, but both have a sense of nurturing each other. Sex is not the focus or the priority in this relationship.

Physical Sex: This is where one or both partners enjoy primarily the physical act, but still the relationship is not threatened. This type of sex may happen to all couples eventually. There’s not much feeling, but no shame either.

Objectifying Sex: This type of sex may or may not be pleasurable to one partner since the other one is fantasizing about other acts. One person’s orgasm is the focus of this sexual act. The other partner may or may not feel that they are important to the orgasmic partner.

Masturbating Sex: One partner is fantasizing about other partners, pornographic movies, or magazines while having sex with her partner. The fantasy is the excitement that leads to the orgasm, not her partner. The partner may feel used, absent, or resentful of this sexual encounter.

Violating Sex: This is where one partner demands from her partner certain behaviors. He does not feel comfortable doing them, but he complies, hoping she will stop nagging him for this sexual act. The partner feels violated as a person, and may have anger or resentment toward his partner for insisting on this activity.

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